Comments on: Quick catchup post

By: Nic

Nic — Wed, 30 Mar 2005 08:37:01 +0000

forgot to add in talking about Dad’s Mum that my wedding ring was her wedding ring – one of my most treasured possessions for several reasons. I also love the idea of family traditions and we are instigating many in the hopes that our children adopt them and pass them down to their’s.

By: Nic

Nic — Wed, 30 Mar 2005 08:14:27 +0000

I hope you get your wishes for SB and BB to know their relatives themselves. My Dad’s parents both died when I was very young (GF when I was 2, GM when I was 9), My Mum’s parents are both still around but were not very good parents to my Mum and we have not seen my GF for about 10 years. Although my GM is a fairly regular presence in the children’s lives it is one I monitor closely to ensure that she is a positive presence as she can be quite bitter and I don’t want the children drawn into the sort of nonsense with her and my Mum that we were as children.

I would have loved to have known my paternal grandparents – they were excellent parents to my Dad and he still misses then, particularly his mother a lot. I like to think we would have been close if I had gotten to know them and it would have been lovely for them to know that Davies has their name as continuing the name was a big deal to them. I feel a strong connection with that side of the family and we would one day like to end up living in Wales where they were from.

Ady’s father died a few years back although he had long since lost contact and his mother lives quite locally but they have not spoken for many years. His sister died just after Davies was born and we now see his brother a lot but this is a very new relationship and one they are both working on. They all had poor childhoods so there is no grandparents on that side for our children. My parents do their best but do not have the relationship I would love for them to have with the children. I know that between us we are hoping that Davies, Scarlett and the twins will begin the whole big family thing again and hopefully their children will have close relationships with us all as their grandparents.

I do so envy big happy families where the grandparents play such an important role in the children’s lives. Infact your post and my own general musings this week make me determined to push my parents into playing that role a bit more with my children – for everyone’s benefit.

By: Helen

Helen — Tue, 29 Mar 2005 23:39:40 +0000

that is one of the issues, my daughters knowing and remembering her through there own eyes, not just mine. thanx for positive comments on house sharing lower down btw

By: Alison

Alison — Tue, 29 Mar 2005 23:32:25 +0000

Mortality issues … I think C and I both hate it every time we leave his grandpa, being aware that however fit and healthy he seems, he is 94, and this could be the last time … I just want another 3 or 4 years with him at least, so Lulah will remember him as well.

Every time I was pregnant, one of my or C’s grandparents died, it was a harsh reminder of the circle of life (rofl, sorry, Lulah has had Lion King on about 8 times today!).

And yes, I think you’re doing pretty brilliantly

By: Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 29 Mar 2005 22:13:07 +0000

want to comment on your last paragraph but there isn’t really much one can say about such things – other than it does sound like you are managing to cope with it all really well.

lots of love for it all …