Comments on: Sometimes you just despair.

By: HHaricot

HHaricot — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 23:39:15 +0000

thanks you guys.

By: Katy

Katy — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 21:53:46 +0000

TBH it sounds like a typical three thing! J didn’t do it, but pretty much every other three yo I know has done, for varying amounts of time, including both K and L. In fact a surprising number of them seemed to start on the day they turned three or a day either side – we used to joke that they knew! I’ve never understood why people talk about terrible twos when ime three is so much worse!
You will weather it though, and she’ll be full-time lovely again, or as near as whatsit
Fwiw, Helen, I don’t see how you could possibly spend any more time doing things with the girsl! You already do far more than I do and I don’t have a high-pressure job to hold down as well!

By: Michelle

Michelle — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 18:11:50 +0000

You are always a good parent Helen! You spend loads of time with them baking and reading and playing games. And spending time on holiday with them. You don’t stick them in a kids club when you go on holiday as many, many parents do.

By: HHaricot

HHaricot — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 01:25:15 +0000

thanks Allie. i hope it is a this too will pass. because BB is utterly gorgeous otherwise1! and SB is a sweetheart who doesn’t deserve to be bullied by her sister [though i think she is not 100% perfect in this!]

By: Allie

Allie — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 01:12:56 +0000

I don’t think that’s fair on you at all. We have outbreaks of random nastiness sometimes too and I think that people have to take responsibility for their own choices sometimes – even when they’re three! We can’t (as parents) make everything ok all the time. It is very hard when one child seems intent on hurting the other’s feelings or body. But I think it’s very common for people to work through things with siblings that they wouldn’t with anyone else and that this too will pass. It is horrid though and I tend to get very full of self-doubt at such moments too. Strikes me you are a very loving mum – and that’s what counts most, I reckon.

By: HHaricot

HHaricot — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 00:57:08 +0000

but TBH, i mostly think its because I am failing to give either of them enough parental interaction of the fun nature at the moment – and looking at the blog, it seems for ever since i was a good parent

By: HHaricot

HHaricot — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 00:50:53 +0000

… and i don’t want sb to get the thinking she deserves it [a la provocative dressing womens payback from judges]

By: HHaricot

HHaricot — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 00:49:12 +0000

yes, that too. we have been working on sb’s reactions for ages. but bb escalates…

By: Michelle

Michelle — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 00:36:46 +0000

reaction from SB was fun for BB!

pah!

By: Michelle

Michelle — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 00:36:15 +0000

I wondered if the reaction from SB was fun for SB.

Jol has been working with Ams to try and calm her reactions down as the boys at art taunt her by discussing gory films and so on and Ams will over-react so that encourages them to keep going. Clo says when Ams isn’t there, the conversation is normal. It’s a bit of bullying really and not nice but it’s difficult to correct from the boys’ side so Ams needs to work on not reacting to provocation. If they don’t get a reaction they will maybe get bored? Ams likes art so she doesn’t want to stop coming.

We also half think Ams likes giving the reactions too . . .