Comments on: Back in Time

By: HHaricot

HHaricot — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 15:31:56 +0000

our nans sound very similar

By: Em

Em — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 15:30:03 +0000

ooo my nana would not want an adopt a granny person checking on her! Took much much much much nagging to get her to allow a home help go in a couple of times a week to help her with the washing and cleaning. Even then she doesn’t always let them in. She had the panic button to stop us nagging her, but wouldn’t use it. I do admire her self responsability, and motivation to look after herself and not allow herself to become unable. My parents have offered her space at theirs, but she would be too far from the place she really knows and has lived for the last 30 years.

By: HHaricot

HHaricot — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 14:59:22 +0000

but i do love her, and her always feisty and make doing. she is a v good role model – up to the point of not going to live near one of us!

By: HHaricot

HHaricot — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 14:58:35 +0000

our village has a well organised adopt a granny type scheme [under a genlter title!] where people pop in and see whats needed – mind you, my nan would send them away too. she is *very* determined to be independant to the last.
she still manages the stairs oK, and we have put a commode in the bedroom for emergency use.
nan won’t put in a panic button, nor will she allow us to adapt her bathroom – as it may damage reslae value of house

By: Em

Em — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 13:16:17 +0000

The decider for my Nana was the stairs. She had stairs she just couldn’t really manage any more, and she had one day when she had hurt herself upstairs and was stuck in her room unable to move and ended up sitting on her bed soiling herself because she couldn’t get to the toilet (though why she didn’t press the panic button she has is a whole other issue!) So yes, stairs were the thing. Now she doesn’t have any. My other grandparents on the other hand will not be moved at all, and both yoyo from home to hospital without ever managing to recover properly as it takes so much effort to look after themselves at home. I guess sometime fairly soon they just won’t make it back from hospital and will go straight into respite, or not at all

Argh getting old is so hard, even with lots of family support around you. Makes me so sad thinking about those with nobody.

By: HHaricot

HHaricot — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 12:21:04 +0000

i wish we could persuade, but don’t think we will. she is adamant she will be removed in a box. and now she has been told her cancer has spread a lot, she feels there is no point.

By: Em

Em — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 09:03:03 +0000

The time to move out of your home part is so difficult isn’t it. My Nana has just moved (last week) from the masisonette she has lived in for much longer than my lifetime into a wardened flat. This now means she can have meals in the communal lounge if she wants to, so sees people. But is in a self contained flat, so doesn’t have to. They have ‘stuff’ going on through the week. She can still come and go as she pleases. She can go out to the shops if she wants. There is someone there that knocks on her door everyday just to say hello and check she is OK. This all took a lot of pursuading though initially, and a long time in planning, she was on a waiting list for nearly a year. Now she has done it she is thrilled! She has a new social life.

By: Daddybean

Daddybean — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 23:15:22 +0000

Yeah, but it wouldn’t have taken so long if I’d been allowed to drill a bigger hole in the first place..

My DIY mottoes:

Hit it harder or make a bigger hole