Comments on: That was then, this is now

By: HHaricot

HHaricot — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 17:40:14 +0000

Thanks Alison. we have def been working on confidence and communication! I was really pleased that she seemed to be more perky. I am determined to stay cheerful at home – though coming back from work sobbing on sat not so helpful!

By: Alison

Alison — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 17:23:48 +0000

Oh Helen *hugs*. Watching your dear nanny’s slow decline must be so horrible – not surprising it colours everything else. You’ve got enough other stuff to be worrying about too

Thought SB was on fine form last week though – whatever you’ve been doing with her to bolster her up again has definitely worked

By: HHaricot

HHaricot — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 21:36:14 +0000

thanks all. i guess i have ‘leaky’ blueness – ie it is colouring all sorts of other things at the mo, and yes, i am happy that sb in a much happier place – which has been a thrust of ours!

By: Elaine

Elaine — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 19:19:36 +0000

Hugs from me to you Helen.

I think your HEing is fantastic. We’ve been doing Minimus since September and still on chapter 2!

You have two really happy kiddies.

By: Allie

Allie — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 00:29:54 +0000

How awful, Helen.

FWIW I am always impressed by the loving and considered way you write about your kids and I think that’s worth more than a fist full of workbooks or a packed calendar of trips. x

By: Jax

Jax — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 00:16:30 +0000

Hugs.

By: Nic

Nic — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 00:06:20 +0000

Thinking of you. xxx

By: HHaricot

HHaricot — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 23:52:59 +0000

thanks Michelle. i was thinking a bit of local radiotherapy. it has hardly broken the skin, and may just stop a huge ulcer – which would be quite crap. not intending any life prolonging therapy. but sorry about your nan and the chemo. not uplifting, but don’t think that uplift is much of an option.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 23:44:11 +0000

Hugs Helen. I think the treatment was what killed my Nan. I think she would have had longer and what she had would have been spent more enjoyably had she not gone down the chemo route. You can’t turn back time or change things though and I so wish she was still here. And I’m mad at myself for her passing being so awful. It doesn’t neeed to be that way. I wish I’d accepted the likelihood of her death and researched options rather than being in denial almost right to the end.

That wasn’t uplifting or cheerful but not sure that it would be appropriate to try.

You do do loads. I never quite see how you could fit more in. We do need to get those monthly walks dates sorted as that’s when things slip for me, when I don’t have the dates in long in advance – your weekends being usually busy too compounds the problem.