Comments on: The smell of nostalgia

By: HHaricot

HHaricot — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 20:10:49 +0000

thanks all. Ah Ros, that’s lovely.

By: Roslyn

Roslyn — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 19:21:58 +0000

Oh darling Helen I’m sorry very sorry for your loss. It’s good to go through all these processes. I didn’t get to go to my Grandma’s house, she left it 10 years before she died. But when she did I was given a box of things of hers and in it where all the little cards and letters I’d sent her as a child. Made me cry for hours. I kept them and when I lift the lid of the box I can smell her and relive memories I may have since forgotten.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 04:10:04 +0000

can just imagine the ‘gulp’ moment when you found your cards/letters there. It is both wonderful and painful to discover things like that, underlines just how much she loved you too, even though you knew that before.

Sounds like it was a hard day but part of a positive process as well – keep crying (and blogging) for as long as it helps.

lots of love xxx

By: tbird

tbird — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 07:11:12 +0000

hugs. and yes, what Jax said.

By: Merry

Merry — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 23:03:17 +0000

What they said.

Had a real resonance for me as, when we cleared Gran’s house, there were the little fimo models we had made her just before she got suddenly worse and then died.

So many hugs; you have such a tangible person to grieve – she must have been wonderful because you have made her, and her love, very tangible in the way you have written.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 22:55:37 +0000

By: Jax

Jax — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 22:53:40 +0000

tbh, what you are talking about sounds like a perfectly healthy way to grieve and yet still be moving on a little. It hurts like nothing else, but you’re doing it and involving your girls in it too which is a a good way for them to understand how life, and death works.

Hugs.