so, both because i wanted to see them, and also because bb and i need to keep busy and not brood on how much we miss SB being away, we went to visit my parents, leaving dh behind for diy purposes. the drive down was awful! the rain was bucketting, the road had lots of spray, and wereas most drivers were like me, staidly driving 50, some were still at crazy speeds. argh! however we got there safely, and it feels like home 
sat we went to cliveden. just mum, as dad didn’t really want to go out. he didnt go out much all weekend, which makes me worry. cliveden was lovely. mum and i werent sure whether bb would like it – she is unreliable at liking! but she loved it. she loved the maze [a lot]the paths, the waterfalls, the slide from the terrace [very much] the icecream and shop, and also the younger childrens playground. when i said we would perhaps go back in the summer with FrB, she was really positive, especially as we will go to the older play area and the pagoda . so good day
the next day after a bit of negotiation – and lots of games of biberbande, we went to marlow to feed the ducks and go to the swings, and also to a gardencentre. normal things and she was happy with all of that as well
hooray and 3 cheers . negotiated lunch [thanks to mum for understanding] and went with dad to the village swings. gald dad came out with us. BB liked them. loads of red kites – 5 at one point! home and the drove home, at least a better drive.
great weekend, and bb agreed we should do it more often