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My Public New Year Resolutions

1. As every year, lose weight is at top! last years number 2 [get pregnant] and number 3 [get new job - vv stressful] combined completely ruined it, but no excuses this year.

2. Combining with number 1 is…….. excercise!!! Walk more often, swim when possible, yoga with Elinor, family cycling/walking trips. Also ? find pilates class and ignore that I am fattest/unfittest in class.

3. do my own piano and violin practice.

4. make the most of this precious time with my children

5. when I restart work, do so with no regrets and a positive attitude to make the best of all I have – a loving family and a fantastic job, that I also love. If I can shift the balance towards family, to do so.

plus a few in head only ones!!!!!

Looking Back

Well, we started the year with key aims
1. to have another child [and started, finally on the clomid since I had got down to BMI 30]
tick!!! We welcomed Alys into our family in November
2. Me to get a consultant post, ideally in Leeds, and a 4 day week
tick, cross, cross. However, started in Sept in Cambridgeshire and is a great job. Hours are far too long though, and now must move]
3. Think about Elinor’s education
tick – here we are!

So,additional good things – continued health of us, a good holiday with Chris’s parents in Wales, some lovely family visits, getting my research published, and presenting at conferences – including Athens where chris and Elinor came too, and we exposed her to the cradle of civilisation! Our house finally looking nice. Elinor being 80% gorgeous and only 15% frustration and 5% up the wall!
Sad things – luckilly not many. My Nan’s breast cancer recurring. Mum’s heart attack scare – turned out to be fibromyalgia. Living in hospital accommodation in Huntingdon for 8 weeks with Elinor and Chris just visiting at weekends [hopefully we will never live apart again]

Today we took advantage of the sun and went to golden acre park.SB getting far more confident with bike.

Little Nanny

is my Mum’s mum, and we visited her at Aunty Margarets today. She is looking v well, though this latest course of radiotherapy has been tougher than previously [recurrent breast cancer]. SB is v gentle with her now, mostly reading books together and ‘look at me’ play and games. oh, and eating the yummy cakes she bakes!
Nanny has a really soft spot for SB, as she saw her when only 3 hours old, and was the ray of sunlight in the year she was diagnosed with breast cancer, and originally told by junior doctor to abandon all hope. [luckilly excellent consultant at Norfolk and Norwich turned this around, but after SB's birth].
BB went in for the ‘ I’m anybodies, cuddle me’ approach, which she does v well.

Christmastidings

We went to my parents for xmas, after visiting Chris’s parents – so a bit of a royal review of loyal subjects! [obviously ELinor and ALys's loyal subjects, not ours!!]. my sister and her family also stayed with Mum and Dad, so a jolly household.
Xmas worked really well, got on OK, no rows. part of the ease I think came from the fact that this year us adults opened our presents Xmas eve after children in bed, to Xmas carols, mulled wine and nibbly bits. Made it v relaxed, and got to enjoy own presents rather than keeping eye out on what youngsters ripping open!
Also, when children opened presents the next day, there seemed to be the right number. enough to play with, without having too many, or feeling extravagant. The grandchildren played beautifully together.
Cheers to Mum for catering, and all there for such a lovely time. Cris will no doubt add a few photos and says he’s written a bit too.

Eyes agog….

A bit of an addition to Helen’s post and a few piccies.

Yes, today was fun, most of the kids were still not yet mobile, so weren’t able to create too much havoc, and Helen (mostly) cooked a nice meal. Stringbean and another little girl Amelie got on well and played nicely together – Stringbean likes having someone to boss about (like mother like daughter…..). Lots of baby talk (it was all Mum’s except me) which is probably better than doctor talk. and plenty of little cuties :-)

Anyway a couple of piccies. I love the first one – they can hardly believe their eyes :-)

Elinor and Amelie and chocolates

And lots of bubbly fun at Gym:

Lots of bubble at gym

Chaos central

Got up too late to tidy house, and dashed to gym for SB’s last class. great fun, as a party session. Got 1 more badge to get, which we should do before the move. [they get 1 a term]. have some nice piccies, and nice for her to be centre stage.
Dashed back in time for all my old work colleagues also on mat or annual leave to come for lunch – 7 adults, 2 ‘pre-school’, 6 babies. v noisy, but lovely!
whats more, BB sleeping not feeding!!!!

Settling into a routine??

Well, having fed and fed and fed BB all night, SB went to nursery in the morning, Chris did some tidying, and BB and I snoozed. Recently SB has had this fascination with death ? at least since the summer. She draws and paints dead things, and rather upsettingly wanted me to tell her a story about her dying last week. I explained it would just make Mummy cry, but she reassured me it would just be pretend! I asked at nursery whether they had ?done? death perhaps. Apparently one of the lads there had a baby brother who was stillborn, and the anniversary was a month ago. He often mentions it to the others, so maybe that?s where she got it from? Anyway, although I am happy to talk about death in the abstract, am certainly not going to make up stories at the moment! Also, not being religious, it does take away a measure of the comfort. When my sister?s mother in law died suddenly, they told him that there was some stardust in everyone, and when you died, the stardust went back ? occasionally he speaks to the stars. Think I may go with this, as some basis of truth??? What do others not religious in any sense do?
This afternoon we went to a soft play centre with my old postnatal group. The full crowd there today, very nice. The children play well here, as nicely designed, free soft drinks for children [weak juice] and earl grey for mummy! Some more sweetie making this evening [Florentines], a bit of a tidy up, and then loads of BB feeding. We got a Thai takeout as a treat!
Having read Merry?s goals for the New Year, and being a bit of a listmaker, I am trying to do similar for SB. Its quite nice, as can develop themes etc. Of course, in my heart, I do know that we will be mostly autonomous ? especially at this age ?so may not do any of topics, but helps to think of what she can do and how to build on it. Bite sizing home-ed makes it much more achievable too. Anyway, main definites are to go to Eureka in Halifax, and to Yorvik Viking centre before we move.

This piccie is of moment of calmness, when had both Guinness and BB as hot water bottles

helen,alys and guinness

Birth Story

Thought I had better do this before I forget.
Friday 19th of Nov I was getting v fed up, as 14 days over. at the hospital, an internal suggested nothing much happening [and I had had 2 stretch and sweeps before]. The scan shew that my baby was about 9lb weight, a good healthy heartbeat, and plenty of water. however, baby lying back toback [OP]. Although the consultant was quite happy for me to have a homebirth still, the midwife was v against it. Bearing in mind ELinor was also OP, only 8lb 1, and I had a 4.5 hour second stage, I decided to get it done with, be induced, and have an ultra early discharge.
When I went in that evening, I was having some contractions [but what was new, as I'd had them on and off for 3 weeks], and I was about 2 cm. She wasn’t sure whether to still give me the prostin, or wait till the morning to break my waters, when she asked me what I wanted, I went for the prostin. Like with Elinor, I started contracting pretty much straight away. It was about 8 o clock, but they were a bit erratic. I told chris to go home, have something to eat, and i would prob be in good enough labour for him to come back in at 11 ish.
By 10 o clock, I thought it was about time for a pain killer, as contracting every 3 mins, good and strong. the midwife examined me – 3cm, and gave me some co-codamol. An hour later though, I was contracting almost without a break, and v strong, so I said that I felt things were moving on. Looking at me she agreed, and rang labour ward. I texted chris to say things were thick and fast, time to think about coming in.
I had to walk down the steps to labour ward as the lift was still out of order – that is an acheivement when contracting non-stop! Esther [the midwife from the ward] stayed with me, and snuck me into the home from home unit. She knew I had wanted a home birth, so said she would fill the pool for me, even though not really supposed to for inductions. I guess being a consultant has some perks! A CTG shew a very happy heartbeat, and I was 5 cm. those pools take for ever to run. By 11.40 – with still no Chris, I started feeling that I was losing it. the contractions were non stop, the pains had shifted, so I thought the baby had prob turned to OA position, and I felt I needed ‘something’ Luckilly bath nearly ready, so jumped in. What a relief! Chris arrived soon after and almost immediately I wanted to push. This came as rather a shock, as although looking back I was almost certainly in transition when I got that losing it feeling, It had only been just over 30 mins ago I was 5cm. I knelt up in the bath, my waters went, and I felt the need to push despertely. Unfortunately there was meconium in the liquor, so the midwives had to persuade me to get out of the pool. I was all in a dither, and it took about another 10 mns for me to work out how to do that. Once out I pushed twice in a semi-kneeling position, supporting myself on the pool edge, and Alys was born. She was born at 00.22 20/11/04. Cried straight away, and weighed 9lb 1 oz. I did need stitches as had a second degree tear, but they were done under local with no probs.
She fed easily, and chris eventually went home at about 4am. He came back at 9 to take me home. All in all, I was really pleased with my birth. It would have been nice to be at home, but the midwives were lovely and supportive, and I did at least get a birth of my dreams, if not the location!