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FrB first day in England

SO we woke up to a sunny day, and offered an english breakfast. It seemed very quickly that V and E had to go, and we were sad to see them depart. FrB was also, understandably, a bit wobbly to see them go. We did a variety of things today to keep the flow moving, so that she would hopefully feel welcome and loved, even if it is all so different.

we went around our village, to the park and the lake

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we made dinner together, and also a cake, which we decorated
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we did some art – FrB did an abstract oil painting, and SB glass painting. SOme of the oil paint was more ‘mobile’ than perhaps wise, so there was a little bit of washing to do!
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some friends came round to drop their daughter R with us, who will also be going to centerparcs. We built the 3d kigsaw eiffel tower, and alfie the tortoise crawled through it.
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we had a little bit of computer time, with FrB using SB’s ds, before having dinner, watching a film and then snuggling in bed. A good start I hope for a wonderful exchange.

so now we are 5!

Yesterday, the much awaited arrival of our french daughter, called FrB for this blog! We have done lots of planning and thought about what we can do to make her stay in England interesting, and an adventure. We have had a lot of thought about the home ed element, and what we would like to do/achieve since we are free of the constraints of school, and don’t want to just replicate school at home for her, which I think has some of the negatives of school and not the positives. We have thought about visits, and what she might want to see and do, and also looked again at our local home ed scene, and are not going to be so insular :) . we are hoping that our love and the willingness to make it work for her will make a succesful exchange.

So when the family arrived, we were all very happy to see them, and had a traditional english meal of curry!

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do you want to see my daughter?

I know that I do :)

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France update – week 24

or as you know it now, week -1!! SB has completed her penultimate week in france. In a weeks time she will be home having lived with a french family as one of their own for 25 weeks. It is the last phone call we shall have with her in France. It seems like things are suddenly ending, it has all come rather quickly in the end.

SB has had a good week, she has been feted by her school friends, had 2 sleepovers, a swimming trip, eaten cake and generally felt well loved. She has remembered to take some photos of her friends and some video. She is really REALLY going to miss them. She is also going to miss her french family, in particular big sis C who she has got on well with. This week she is going to ask for permission to take her camera into school. She does have a school photo :) and will be asking all her friends to sign on the back.

Really, en famille exchange for SB does seem to have been exactly what she wanted. the initial worry as she settled into the rhythm of life in france is long forgotten. She has had an adventure. She has become french, speaking it with ease and being comfortable there. She has been immersed in the culture. It hasn’t all been plain sailing or easy, but it has been wonderful. No doubt we will hear more about everything when she comes home next week :)

So, am i glad we did it, would I do it again? Yes, I would. It has been difficult at times, and certainly harder for BB left behind, as well as us as parents. Leaving SB and driving off was a real heartbreaker. but she has gained something wonderful from this, and so an absolutely unqualified yes.

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or week -3 in my head. I am really excited about getting SB back and then FrB after. we are suddenly into planning and diarising and filling up space with fun things to do! SB though has mixed feelings. clearly she is looking forwards to seeing us all again, but she is sad we wont meet her big sis C as she had been in canada when we dropped sb off [tho dh will meet her as he is flying out to pick her up]. she also will really miss the school friends she has made. she is planning to join facebook [on her 13th birthday] and then keep in touch with them through that. she says she needs a french tutor when she returns to keep learning :) . she has really appreciated the experience the exchange has given her, and would really like to do another one! perhaps to spain. hmmmmmmmmmm. lovely talking to her. she was clearly sitting next to frb as periodically would break into french to talk to her. last weekend they made the mosaic kits i got each of them for christmas. apparently they were nice and easy to do and made no mess. she would really recommend them. i did buy separately a pincer for each and a tile clipper between them. she loved having the sunflower one, and frb the dolphin :)

she went shopping with maman v accompanying and spent her xmas money on a trendy scarf and top, and maman also bought her a top, which made her very happy :) . she has enjoyed reading her xmas books [and is determined to keep reading in french now that she can] and her bracelet kit from nanna. one very happy girl :)

I am hoping, as is sb i think, that her relationship with her french family continues, and that perhaps she gets to spend time with them in the future, and perhaps see her schoolfriends again. i hope that this can happen.

France update – week 20

We had to wait a while for our sb update. We hadn’t managed to ring them at home so tried lots of times so she rang us on weds. They had FrB birthday party over the weekend with a girly sleepover party and had lots of fun. She sounded v settled and happy :) I have told her to make the v most of her last month

France update – week 15

SB sounds happy. This weekend they went to the mountains and went sledging and had a snowball fight and the road was very icy. She was very happy :) . They might go into Lyons to see the lights tomorrow, but that depends on the kind of work day V has. School is bobbibg along. she has had 3 detentions so far and has been told off by V for letting the en famille side down, and she has to be extra well behaved. Managed to tell SB I was entirely behind V in this without ruining the call and making her cry – phew! Think her friends may well be the naughtier ones! Oh well, can only stress that it is always good to be the best you can be, even if you think it might not matter in the long term. Generally chatty and happy call. Apparently she hasn’t taken any more photos – which is why there is no update! However V might be sending me some, and SB hopes to put them on flickr and her blog too.

The Roller Coaster

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OK, it hasn’t got a French flag.

 

A week from now, we will all be staying with Stringbean’s French family, getting ready hug her goodbye, and see her off on the beginning of her (and our) En Famille adventure. There have been plenty of twists and ups and downs along the way, as there should be on a good roller coaster. Sometimes it all seems exciting, other times worrying and there were disappointments along the way.

But now here we are right up the top of the highest climb, not quite like the picture, it feels more like we are poised on the summit,that time has slowed down and we are  just waiting for the drop. For the last couple of weeks we’ve been doing the final organising, shopping, pondering, packing. One last appointment tomorrow morning at the orthodontist and we are done. (Oh and the small matter of a party for 50 or so :) )

Stringbean seems confident and ready for it, and both nervous and excited in equal measure, and she seems to have realistic expectations of the  . When asked why she wants to do it she just says because it is a big adventure, which seems to be the right way to approach it.  When people question about how difficult it might be to live with another family, in another country, when you don’t yet speak the language I think they are missing the point. For it is that that makes it the big adventure that it is. I’m proud of her for taking on the challenge, and I’m pleased that as a family we have  felt able to support her and enable her to go.

It also feels a bit humbling that some other family is willing to welcome our daughter into their family, and to entrust one of their children to us in return. In a world in which there seems so often to be so much distrust of others floating about it feels good to be part of something that is so fundamentally about having faith and trust in other people.

I’m not sure any of us really yet know how we are going to feel once we have waved her off, though Butterbean is the most obviously struggling with it at the moment. Whilst I can know that we’ll miss her and everything, it is so far beyond anything we have done before that it has a sense of unreality to it.  Until it’s actually happened, I’m not really going to know quite how it is going to feel.

But I think SB is going to have a great time. Her French family seem lovely and caring,  and I think she will fit in just fine with their life. And while she is away, we will be preparing to welcome her French sister Frenchbean (well what else!) into home and our lives. Which is another whole adventure in itself.

So, as the roller coaster crosses the summit and you see the big drop in front, both scary and exciting, what else is there to do but lift up your arms, let out a big scream, and enjoy the ride, cos there’s no getting off :-)

Have a wonderful time Stringbean xxx