That was close…..

Spent a while writing that last post on the laptop – a little while after posting it I noticed that for some reason it was made twice. I deleted the second copy (from the desktop upstairs). Meanwhile a little later, Helen looked at the pageI had left showing on the laptop, saw the copy, deleted what she thought was the copy, only to realise that there was only one now and she had deleted that……….. :-(

Luckily I found the text of the post by going back in the browser a few pages :-)

Women bloggers eh? :-) – Ducks and runs for cover…. :-)

Oh Wow!….

?Oh Wow!? being Stringbean?s favoured statement of exclamation when she finds something surprising, exciting etc. I love it, it seems to sum up so much of the wonder and excitement in some much in childhood.

Playing catch up again, why does my mind seem to be such a blank when I sit down at the ‘puter?…

Thursday first

Helen was doing another all day course in town, so the day was arranged around getting her fed. Luckily, Butterbean is less fussy about the bottle than her sister was, and though she’s not exactly a fan, will drink well enough from a bottle (given that this is only the second time that she has had to have one). If anything there wasn?t enough in the bottles to fill her up, but it was enough to keep her happy when she wanted a mid morning feed.

The girls and me went into town and met Helen so that Butterbean could have a good fill up. They had three xmas trees at the place we had to go, which impressed Stringbean ? she loves to go up and touch the various decorations for some reasons, then pottered about until she finished. It was cold and windy, Butterbean was wrapped up snug though and kept me warm (!) in the sling. We went to the German Chriskindle Market nearby that is here every December. Bit too cold for browsing really and not exactly busy on windy Thursday. But Stringbean went on a Carousel and enjoyed it (last time she saw one she wanted to go then changed her mind) ? she was the only one on it ? not a good day for trade me thinks. Some lovely wooden toys – I mostly restrained myself. She bought a little wooden decoration on one stall, and I bought a wooden jigsaw type thing of European countries. The jigsaw isn?t that hard and she can do it ok, but I thought it might be a good way to learn the countries. All the names are in German, so extra education value there as well :-)

Here she is playing with it later:

Elinor doing Europe jigsaw
It was too cold to sit outside munching the enticing looking Garlic bread so we headed off to a caf? for some lunch. Stringbean amused the till lady, she likes to pay for things at the moment, so I gave her a tenner to pay. She took the change, went to give it back to me, then changed her mind and said, ?it?s my money now? as she pocketed the change?

Anyway, nice ?Happy Mummy? moment after we got home:

Mummy and daughters

And I cooked roast Potatoes and roast Parsnips with dinner ? yum-yum. And Stringbean munched happily on the Parsnips, which I don?t remember her doing before.

Friday

Had vague plans to maybe go swimming with Stringbean this morning, but she got up a bit later than normal, and I?d already started trying to sort out the disaster that was the kitchen, so I carried on with that through the morning, while playing with Stringbean, helping her out etc. played with her Europe jigsaw, made couple more cards by herself, made various ?constructions? using the card blanks, general playing. Whenever asked if she wanted breakfast she was ?too busy?, we eventually had brunch of baked beans on toasted with saut?ed cold baked potatoes at about 11.30. She cut up the potatoes into chunks mostly by herself, though with close watch taken by me as she wielded the sharp knife. She does know how to use it safely ? keeping her fingers out of the way etc. but of course a 3 year old ?knowing? something and ?applying? that knowledge aren?t the same thing. It would probably scare some people, but I?d rather she know how to use a knife safely, and to respect them (she knows not to touch the sharp knives if one of us isn?t with her). It?s only fairly soft things she can cut any at the moment really anyway.

Once Mummy was up (Butterbean wanting to feed much of the night..), she had to tell endless stories involving the stuffed animals off of the mobile above Butterbeans cot, afternoon involved tidying up the living room and back room where most of the toys live, doing some maths ? adding up, she can 3 numbers up now ? as long as they are small enough and we have been reinforcing the ?teens? using the Advent calendars :-) though she does pretty much know them as far as I can tell., some letters ? words that start with certain letters. It ended with cuddling time. I took Butterbean off for a nappy change, when I came back Stringbean was lying on top of Helen, and said that she wanted to cuddle Mummy herself -she has probably feels that she has missed out bit here, so me and Butterbean went off again, and ended up snoozing on the bed together which was nice :-)

Mummy and elinor having a cuddle
Browsing the web later, I was reading some stuff on the Well Trained Mind website and came across this. Posting it onto the Muddlepuddle list lead to some discussion, as well as on ?A patch of Puddles?. Not sure really what I think of it at fisrt glance it seems a bit intense, but re-reading it probably nor more so than any other home with 4 kids all doing stuff, maybe it wasn?t so much the amount of work they were doing, but the kind of work and the approach.

I feel that I want to spend sometime reading and thinking more about what sort of approaches we might want to take with Stringbean, just doesn?t seem to have been too much time for that this year, we just want to get on with moving down south and get on with life ? just the small matter of selling our house??.

Well my aim was to get today blogged while it was still today – almost managed it, maybe I?ll fiddle the posting date :-)

Eyes agog….

A bit of an addition to Helen’s post and a few piccies.

Yes, today was fun, most of the kids were still not yet mobile, so weren’t able to create too much havoc, and Helen (mostly) cooked a nice meal. Stringbean and another little girl Amelie got on well and played nicely together – Stringbean likes having someone to boss about (like mother like daughter…..). Lots of baby talk (it was all Mum’s except me) which is probably better than doctor talk. and plenty of little cuties :-)

Anyway a couple of piccies. I love the first one – they can hardly believe their eyes :-)

Elinor and Amelie and chocolates

And lots of bubbly fun at Gym:

Lots of bubble at gym

Chaos central

Got up too late to tidy house, and dashed to gym for SB’s last class. great fun, as a party session. Got 1 more badge to get, which we should do before the move. [they get 1 a term]. have some nice piccies, and nice for her to be centre stage.
Dashed back in time for all my old work colleagues also on mat or annual leave to come for lunch – 7 adults, 2 ‘pre-school’, 6 babies. v noisy, but lovely!
whats more, BB sleeping not feeding!!!!

Settling into a routine??

Well, having fed and fed and fed BB all night, SB went to nursery in the morning, Chris did some tidying, and BB and I snoozed. Recently SB has had this fascination with death ? at least since the summer. She draws and paints dead things, and rather upsettingly wanted me to tell her a story about her dying last week. I explained it would just make Mummy cry, but she reassured me it would just be pretend! I asked at nursery whether they had ?done? death perhaps. Apparently one of the lads there had a baby brother who was stillborn, and the anniversary was a month ago. He often mentions it to the others, so maybe that?s where she got it from? Anyway, although I am happy to talk about death in the abstract, am certainly not going to make up stories at the moment! Also, not being religious, it does take away a measure of the comfort. When my sister?s mother in law died suddenly, they told him that there was some stardust in everyone, and when you died, the stardust went back ? occasionally he speaks to the stars. Think I may go with this, as some basis of truth??? What do others not religious in any sense do?
This afternoon we went to a soft play centre with my old postnatal group. The full crowd there today, very nice. The children play well here, as nicely designed, free soft drinks for children [weak juice] and earl grey for mummy! Some more sweetie making this evening [Florentines], a bit of a tidy up, and then loads of BB feeding. We got a Thai takeout as a treat!
Having read Merry?s goals for the New Year, and being a bit of a listmaker, I am trying to do similar for SB. Its quite nice, as can develop themes etc. Of course, in my heart, I do know that we will be mostly autonomous ? especially at this age ?so may not do any of topics, but helps to think of what she can do and how to build on it. Bite sizing home-ed makes it much more achievable too. Anyway, main definites are to go to Eureka in Halifax, and to Yorvik Viking centre before we move.

This piccie is of moment of calmness, when had both Guinness and BB as hot water bottles

helen,alys and guinness

Getting festive at last.

Monday

Been a bit late with the Christmas tree this year, with one thing and another. Had intended to have a family trip out to Bolton Abbey and get one from there – one of those places you can go and get your tree from the field, but to much happening last week, so it didn’t happen. Shame as Stringbean would have enjoyed it.

Anyway, I got a tree yesterday from a local DIY emporium. I did the manly bit of putting the tree and lights up, Helen and Stringbean did the girly bit and decorated the tree while me and Alys looked on. Stringbean actually did most of decorating with a little bit of guidance. It?s not quite up to the normal ?Tasteful? standards of Helen?s trees :-) but then that?s a 3 year old for you – Stringbean is into lots of tinsel and sparkly shiny things. It?s looking good, we still have the angel we made last year from the Muddlepuddle list xmas craft kit so that went straight on top. Entertainingly, she also made and Elf and a Father Xmas – these are stuck on the end of branches (she didn?t want to hang them) sticking out at an angle. I put some dangly lights in her window which she loved – they have little blue stars on the end and are ?beautiful?.

Elinor decorating tree

Stringbean and me had quick glitterfest after dinner and made some more xmas cards for her friends at nursery. I made some stamps of a bell and tree out of potatoes, we dipped them in PVA glue, stamped the cards and the glittered away madly. One of the pleasures of having a young child is having an excuse to play with glitter etc. again :-). We?ve now made over 50 cards this year, not bad going.

I?m going to post this then maybe do Tuesday in bit. Helen has been feeding Alys for most of the time I?ve been writing this ? where does she put it all?

A yum-yum weekend.

Oh….!! Part wrote a post when the machine hanged and I lost it?..

Try again.

Oh??. !!!, I started trying to write this 2 hours ago ? crashing machines, then Butterbean insists on wanting a feed every hour (or less) and has spent the last 20-30 mins fussing and crying as Helen is busy. Write this or be even later to bed??..?

Keep it short I guess, anyway, plenty of nice things ahve been created in the kitchen this weekend by Stringbean and Mummy, Coconut Ice and Peppermint Creams yesterday, Chocolate dipped Brazil nuts and Crystallised Ginger today – mmmm!. Stringbean of course enjoyed cleaning out the chocolatey bowl…

Stringbean licking the bowl

Other than that – on Saturday, boring things like housework, going to Sainsburys etc. Stringbean isn’t too bad when shopping as long as we don’t take too long. Of coiurse she is now getting to the stage of wanting all sorts of things, which we won’t normally buy, but takes refusal withotu any great fuss as long as you give a reason. And I leap at any chance to give her a choice about things – what fruit etc., and she loves being able to choose some bread. Bumped into a work colleague with her two kids (about 6 and 3). They were debating which flavour Fruitshoot drink to get. Stringbean, in best pretentious girl mode stands there going

We don’t have those, we just have water or juice

She likes to help with putting the stuff through the checkout, at the end, she kkept complaing that the little conveyor belt thing after the checkout wasn’t going (‘cos it would all build up), that the checkout woman turned it on, made her much happier. We left to remostrations as too why we were going to the cafe………’ Just for a bit’ , ‘just for snack…’

Ended the day playing with her Happy Street stuff -of which there is enough for small conurbation (mostly 2nd hand due to Helen’s Ebay habit…:-)). Me and her set it all out over the back room floor before she went to bed, so that it would bethere in the morning. (reminds me of being a kid, when my Dad would get finish getting all the toy cars out for me, so they were all out on the floor in the morning) She was quite excited when she got up to find it al there and spent ages playing with it, she is just at the right age now, and comes up with all sorts of increasingly complicated scenarios and stories – we spent ages togther palying with it. Certainly encourages her imagination.

Stringbean playing with Happy Street

Sunday morning, she had a go at giving Butterbean a massage, with Helen’s help, both seemed to enjoy it. Helen used ot take Stringbean to Baby Massge classes when she was little. She was already sitting up by then (she was sitting well by 4 month) and while all the other babies were lying down, Helen would have to try to massge Stringbean with her sitting up as she was such a nosey baby :-)

She didn’t want to pull a sensible face for the cmaera though – this si the better one….
Stringbean giving butterbean a  massage

Amusing Moments

1. Elinor stomping backwards and forwards on Saturday evening, hands on hips going ‘ You are a boy, boys have to do what girls tell them’.

2. A couple of days ago, running around naked after her bath, singing her own made up ‘Merry Christmas’ song – the pleasures of being 3 years old……..

Tiem for bed – Butterbean is still awake, has been since mid evening – must be on the 10th feed of the night or something already…..

Bittersweet

Chris is writing most of the Blog, though we have a very combined approach to parenting. A lot of this is about to change though. i am on maternity leave, and at the end of this we will have moved to a new area and I will start work full time [having been part time before]. Chris will be the prime carer, and although I know he will be great, and the children happy, I can’t help but wish we could have continued with status quo. I have the next 4 months to make the most of, and then try hard at work to try and reduce hours and make the absolute most of all the time at home. Maybe the baby blues are making me more miserable about this, or lack of sleep – however, actually on the whole don’t feel blue like last time with Elinor – maybe because I knew to expect no sleep, and although Alys feeds all the time, at least breast feeding not so hard as last time!
Anyway, this is last maudlin post, and when chris goes to work after xmas, will try and do blog to , of Helen’s mad dash!!
Tody fun though [though I spent a lot of it with an attachment! Also the Lakeland order finally arrived with card making extras – though we’ve now made so many out of whatever we can find, may be saved until next year. Have I don christmas shopping? no! Am I panicking – not yet, as I think book vouchers or m and s vouchers with home made jams/jellies and chutneys may be order of the day! -H [must go, poopy nappy alert after all this bf!]

ooh, a PS. thankyou for the muddle puddle cards so far. Stringbean keeps asking what the card senders looklike and how old they are – so struggling as bit, so say we are all going to meet next feb – everyone is going, aren’t they??

Tired out (well parents…)

All home, parents tired (Mummy from feeding lots, Daddy is full of cold, and general lack of sleep) trying to veg out in the sitting room – of course Stringbean seems to have plenty of energy….. Getting mummy to recite the ‘Princess and the Pea’ while she sort of acts is out (well a variation, Mummy’s version seems to contain a ‘Grumpy Prince’). We just got ‘The Cat in the Hat’ film on ‘Video on Demand’ for her – seems to have worked. she’s settled down on the sofa as well with dolly. :-)

Been out today to a local Home Ed group meeting, luckily almost just down the road from us. Unusally, we all went as a family, normally Helen has been at work. We were supposed to take some sweet things for sharing. We were going to make some muffins yesterday but didn?t get round to it. But Stringbean and me decided to make some this morning before we went ? we just about had them made and cooked in time ? luckily they are quick and easy to make. Lots left as well, as there were loads of cakes and cookies, so plenty to nibble on – Banana and Chocolate – yum, yum.

Had a good time there. Some crafty bits first – painted a candle (didn?t know you could get special candle paints), made a little magnetic picture frame ? with the essential glittery bits of course and then made a crown with plenty of stuck on bits and pieces. When ever she is doing stuff like this she always knows what she wants to do, you have to be careful if you help and not get it wrong or there can be all sorts of fuss.

Followed by lunch, followed by cakes. Followed by various party type games Stringbean always seems a bit dopy when it comes to such things about what she is supposed to be doing, but I guess she is one of the younger ones – she does like standing like a statue and running about and screaming though, and there was a fair bit of the latter :-)

Amusing moment of the day

Stringbean siting on the sofa next to Mummy this afternoon, (who was feeding Butterbean) ‘breastfeeding’ her dolly. :-)

Still behind on the rest of the week, may go back and post a bit on previous days of the week,

Feel a bit better now rested, time to finish getting dinner ready.

Busy Busy – Alys legal

After nappachino rang for an appointment to register butterbeans birth. Realised that if didn?t do it that afternoon, we may not make it in the 6 week window! SO a rapid turnaround and dash to registrar. I always look like a criminal, as use married surname for nothing apart from family envelopes and a as a group name! So on certificate has both my names with an otherwise known as! Afterwards Stringbean could smell ?a lovely chip smell? so decided to follow smell to find a caf?, where we all had teacakes. A stop at lovely bakery for cakes, and we were set up! God thing I don?t breastfeed and diet at the same time! -H