Well, having fed and fed and fed BB all night, SB went to nursery in the morning, Chris did some tidying, and BB and I snoozed. Recently SB has had this fascination with death ? at least since the summer. She draws and paints dead things, and rather upsettingly wanted me to tell her a story about her dying last week. I explained it would just make Mummy cry, but she reassured me it would just be pretend! I asked at nursery whether they had ?done? death perhaps. Apparently one of the lads there had a baby brother who was stillborn, and the anniversary was a month ago. He often mentions it to the others, so maybe that?s where she got it from? Anyway, although I am happy to talk about death in the abstract, am certainly not going to make up stories at the moment! Also, not being religious, it does take away a measure of the comfort. When my sister?s mother in law died suddenly, they told him that there was some stardust in everyone, and when you died, the stardust went back ? occasionally he speaks to the stars. Think I may go with this, as some basis of truth??? What do others not religious in any sense do?
This afternoon we went to a soft play centre with my old postnatal group. The full crowd there today, very nice. The children play well here, as nicely designed, free soft drinks for children [weak juice] and earl grey for mummy! Some more sweetie making this evening [Florentines], a bit of a tidy up, and then loads of BB feeding. We got a Thai takeout as a treat!
Having read Merry?s goals for the New Year, and being a bit of a listmaker, I am trying to do similar for SB. Its quite nice, as can develop themes etc. Of course, in my heart, I do know that we will be mostly autonomous ? especially at this age ?so may not do any of topics, but helps to think of what she can do and how to build on it. Bite sizing home-ed makes it much more achievable too. Anyway, main definites are to go to Eureka in Halifax, and to Yorvik Viking centre before we move.
This piccie is of moment of calmness, when had both Guinness and BB as hot water bottles
Well, if you’re going to Eureka do scream in good notice and we’ll come meet you there! (Assuming that we’re not off and about on one of our jaunts
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Wanted to say that Small loves the Christmas card you sent – he likes pictures of ppl, so has been carrying it around, oo-ing at it.
Re death, we’re not religious here at all (which has lead to some interesting questions around Christmas, but that’s probably a blog rather than a comment). We’ve read Badger’s Goodbye (think that’s what it’s called) which reduces me to helpless blubbing everytime, but which focuses on memories – ppl live on in our memories of them. That’s kind of where we’ve gone with it, it’s bodies that die, but ppl don’t because we can all remember them. Not sure that would help much with the stillborn case though, as there won’t be any memories
(well, not so much for the little boy anyway).
yes, I think the memories thing a good idea. and will def wave over a eureka visit!
We’ll probably be going Jan/Feb time, let you know. We thought the piccies in card thing might be good idea. Elinor liked the card from Nic, with piccie of Scrlett and Davies on as she could see ‘ people she didn’t know’
Aw, pleased she like it! They liked the pic of your two aswell, cue Scarlett ‘Baby! Baby mummy!’