Monthly Archives: April 2005

Autonomous/child led/child centred?

maths 5, literacy 5, science 3, history 3, Geography 5, PE 3, Socialisation 3, Arts/crafts 6, Languages 3, Domestic science 4

These are the number of mentions these topics have had in the last week. We have been pretty much child led [ie things offered only when SB at a loss until she decideds on one - usually read a book as well], and since there were 2 nursery days, which must count as socialisation, so add 2 there, I’m quite impressed by how balanced it looks without trying. Obviously, different amounts of actual time are involved, and I have little evidence of actual learning!! [as not tested!]

She has had a specific interest in volcanos this week – def not sparked off by me at all. Also has spontaneously been coming out with litle snippets of information – ie at the grand canyon thing when they mentioned 4000 years ago, she asked if that was far enough ago for dinosaurs, where although it isn’, it did actually show to me a grasp of the concept of a v long time ago, which hasn’t always been evident.

So, which way we will eventually jump?? Certainly not leaning towards the full homeschooled with rigorous timetables. Also not completely autonomous, as with the shared [hopefully] pattern, we will need to have a story arc as it were to the education, but the infilling on an autonomous front, so that we can get resources ready for the week, and see what we get through. May get stuff together for small projects, to get us all into the swing, and have ideas for family/home centered ones, and a few others that we can have ready, as well as reacting in a lets find way to whatever takes her fancy. Hopefully our style will evolve to gel with SB’s natural learning patterns.

I think the nice thing about thinking about it and starting so early, is there really isn’t any pressure on us to show results as yet. So we get to develop first. [though there is an emphasis on reading at this age, prob as you can see that they're nearly there, grasping at it, and you just want to give it to them]

Wondering what the difference will be with Chris in the driving seat??

I can whistle

SB is really happy about this latest skill, its a bit erratic, but there is no doubt that she can whistle. We have been practising on and off all day.

Thought I’d have a play day today, so we started off by reading in bed together – umpteen stories! [literacy] and playing with BB, who was waggling nappy free [always a gamble!][childcare and development – lol]. This is paying off, as SB really getting the hang of entertaining BB without being dangerous, and loves the smiles and giggles she gets back. Def fostering closeness I think. This actually took us to nearly 10 0 clock, so a quick breakfast and we then played with the marble run bedore heading out. It has taken SB longer than I anticipated to grasp that the marbles will only run downwards, not jump back up again!

We then headed off to National museum of photograpy etc. in Bradford for a home-ed group imax venture – a 2D grand canyon. We failed to find a parking space so had to run like the clappers uphill pushing buggy [god, how I hate running!] SB found this hilarious. We missed the first 10 or so mins, but they still let us in, and we enjoyed it. the cinematography was at times breathtaking – well the subject is partic telegenic! SB decided we wouldn’t go down in a boat, but fancied the micralite! I fancied the whitewater rafting – but not with SB! [geography]. At one point in the filming I had SB on one knee, and BB was bf lying on other knee rugby hold, and I had 2 of the stewards behind. I wonder what they made of it! Both girls were transfixed though. SB gave me a running commentary [luckily remebering to be sotto voce a lot of the time!] When we left, we managed to go a diff way to everyone else, so didn’t get to meet up – though a brief hello to Sarah in the auditorium.

[aside, SB just down from her bath, and still has rice crispies in her hair! she’s sitting in my whiskey hole [ie where the cat likes sitting] and is watching ‘what the victorians did for us’ [history]]

Anyway, we then had a pootle through the museum. We particularly enjoyed the animation bit, and the studio bit – SB thought the ‘magic carpet’ was particularly good, and seeing herself on telly. We didn’t look at the museum in any kind of structured or ed way, but just let whatever caught SB’s imagination lead us – wierd at times, partic amongst the old cameras. We treated ourselves to a cafe pitstop before going home.

At home we were going to do a bit of a collage of grand canyon images [we'd been discussing it in the car], but I went up to change the poopiest bot in the universe and when I came down, there were cards and sparkly bits everywhere[craft]. Not quite as everywhere ]as when BB of the now clean bot launched herself at a pot of sparkly stars and strew them imaginatively everywhere in the kitchen! the people who move into our house are going to wonder just how glitter and sparkles got into so many nooks and crannies.

[BB now lying in whiskey hole, have had lovely long phone call with my friend S – hello if you’re reading!]

A bit of education city – french which was too advanced for now, but adaptable, and maths. [languages, maths] We wont be taking up the subscription, though I do like it due to the unnecessary expense at this stage. Mind you, SB also gets it worng on purpose to see what actions are going to happen. I think the frequent offer to print off a certificate annoying, as we got through loads of unnecessary paper – ah well, can write lists on the back! Sb whistled some more!

[ aside – In fact, my June list is likely to be a June next year list. A chance remark on an email back from my secretary [!!!] says that compensatory leave [as in day off after a night shift] has been cancelled for consultants due to increased registrars, so no longer resident. now although in the future I will be much happier being on call from home; at the moment I really prefer having the day off afterwards to spend with children, and this day off was half of the compressed hours scheme for a 4 day week – so screwed things up a bit. WHY DON’T PEOPLE TELL YOU when they are changing your job so massively?? So I can either continue on with the 4 day week thing with loss of pay and then not really be able to afford house, or stay at a 5 day week. I can’t now bear either option. So, have decided to blunder ahead and join Gill on the foraged food and beans on toast diet until things improve. If they don’t bugger about too much more, in 2 years we may return to even keel, and start paying off whatever further debts accrued. Ah well. And I budgeted so well!! Obviously this is assuming they actually accept my flexible working proposal!]

Just watched that evolution prog and quite enjoyed it. chris videoed it, as i am threatening withdrawal of tv and broadband – guess which will hit us the worst!

no thoughts again, mad budgeting panics! Comes from being a wanting it all woman. I’m sure it will all settle out. It really is the loss of those days that hits me though. Otherwise, we had a really fun day, and I managed to put it to back of mind. SB really enjoyed the museum, even though we managed not to socialise at all! The day in fact whizzed past.

I like Grand Designs

But am perpetually amazed by things like this and property ladder where people seem to ahve been lent huge amounts of dosh by friends – in this case approx ?40,000. WHo are these people with such affluent friends? And then, having been lent all this money, they do a real design statement with the house, plus unnecesaries, such as a hidden bath under the bed – whats that all about? Where is their pride? they prob could have built framework and then had second hand furnishings and basic bathroom etc without borrowing the ?40000. then done it up as they got the money – isn’t that how most people do it? house did look good though. maybe I’m just ranty as in wibble mode.

Anyway, enough of rants. We had a nice day today – though still recovering from crap lack of sleep, and I’m going to bed any minute. Struggling to remember what we did though.

Oh yes, we did a lovely birthday card for Little Nanny [Mum's Mum] and Aunty Margaret – well in advance cos things are about to get interesting around here! [arts and crafts] I particularly liked the fact that she had such a strong idea of the design she wanted rather than random stickings – it was a window card with ladybirds and feathers.

Hm, oh yes we played memory game with her shape snap cards. pogoing, shops – and wrote a very squiggly shopping list. Also lots of joint playing with BB, so seem gradually to be getting that one sussed! We also did the education city reception level maths [maths]

For the afternoon we went to tots group – they were all very suprised that we hadn’t moved yet, and having said goodbye and got upset about it once, I’m annoyed that I will be doing it again. [socialisation]

Aunty Margaret came round, and SB proudly shew off the memory games of numbers and fractions on Joe the dragon, and did some more of the reception level education city english games. [literacy]. Also played hide and seek, and read a magazine. Also a fair bit of BB cuddling and playing going on. BB is getting close to that Eureka roll moment.

Aunty Margaret also brought me a lovely paperweight with a heart imprint. She is going to be as sad for us leaving, as I am to go. She’s just come back from a weekend at Little Nanny’s, and reported that my offer of welcome and home was well received, but although Nanny was overjoyed that we would think of her, she still isn’t going to do it!

A bit of vegging in front of nick jnr, dinner, bath – without dolly this time, though some fuss over whether she had ‘bath knickers and vest’ on. OK, I prob should have said yes, as no big deal, but lack of sleep makes me less flexible, and she wasn’t that bothered. She’s been more of a pickle tonight over sleep, and come down twice – so has actually watched half of the grand designs prog, and was v interested in the house building. she also was commenting how unlike it was to ancient egyptian house [so is taking things in!] and pointing out various differences and some similarities. [design, history]

Finally settled in bed, I’ve done a scout around the blogring, written this, and will retire!

no thoughts for the day, as lack of sleep monster has rendered me witless!

oh sod it, jsut realised done the whole lot as CHris – though I’m sure you know it sounds like Helen!

Still there were 4 / global footprints

Aarggh another night of crap. I have such a bad back from perching on edge of bed, If it happens another night, am going to consider an action plan!

Saw Jax’s global footprint thing, and came up with 1.8 planets required. [My family need 3.3 hectares, the world has 1.8 and the average for my country is 5.3, so at least some good!] however, I wasn’t sure on size of house or liters petrol per 100km?? Our food choices seemed to score OK [1 as opposed to 0.9, but we could reduce the packaged foods some more] personal mobility [0.3] was bang on OK – though will get much worse when re-start work, though Chris will balance that out a bit with his cycling! we fell down on shelter having just bought bloomin big house, which if it has any energy efficient systems in it at the moment I will keel over in shock. actually does have secondary glazing, and new boiler, but we will be rectifying this as and when money trickles through our hands – lightbulbs and loft insulation being first priorities. I would like to have as lower energy imprint as possible, which is why a vidtorian listed building prob not the ideal eco choice!

Today/Yesterday

Well we did recover to some extent from the shattered night. Sb being at nursery at the morning was certainly helpful. I cuddled and played with BB – who is really showing a personality now. She is a happy smiley girl, who likes boisterous play. It is nice to have this one to one time with her, when SB isn’t the prime focus!

I picked SB up from nursery after lunch to go to Sunnybanks soft play centre with my postnatal group and her friends. Slightly delayed as I had to provide some first aid to someone who had fallen badly in the middle of the road and couldn’t get up! I don’t think anything broken, but knee very swollen, so ambulance to A and E.

Anyway all 3 of us had fun, me chatting and drinking tea, SB haring around with her mates, and BB being a flirt smiling at all and sundry, and being passed around for cuddles. SB is such a chipmunk – she was climbing up the outside of the cagey bits [whatever the mesh is called] and inciting the others to follow. i persuaded her to come down, as although she seems to have the footing of a mountain goat, she isn’t supposed to be there, and some of her friends were certainly a lot more nervous – though they did follow! [socialisation, PE]

On our return we made fresh veg risotto together – SB cutting up the french beans, and peeling and cutting the carrots. Not all the frozen peas and sweetcorn made it in, as she has a real thing about eating frozen veg! It tasted delicious. We also put beetroot in it, as there was some in the organic veg box – really pretty as white and red rings, but didn’t have the taste, and SB didn’t like it anyway! [cooking]. Chris took BB for a walk to the postbox – oh I do like the sunny weather!

We then had a look at education city – already previewd by Sarah and Joyce following June’s recommendation. Yes, we are the sheep!! Anyway, we signed for a 5 day trial of foundation and year 1. the foundation science games we played today were fun and a bit easy. nice butterfly and frog lifestyle game. We also did some of the reception english. SB really improving, she can easily spot first sound, and often last in a spoken word. Didn’t try the maths or french – will perhaps try tomorrow. [science, IT, literacy]

We took dolly into the bath tonight – so floor resembles a flood plain! Dolly not alot cleaner for her dunking, even if wetter. C0uple of books and a Mog CD for bed tonight. BB now being a little bit grizzley at mo in Chris’s arms – having just shown no interest in feeding.

Yesterday Quick Update

i went to see friends and their gorgeous new baby. An emergency caesarean at fully dilated perhaps not the birth plan, but he was over 10lb! Feeding well, though all night and Sarah looks shattered. Start of the great adventure. Explained the ‘this too will pass’ principle – LOL

Thoughts: return to work all too imminent, and not heard one way or ‘tother about 4 days rather than 5. I am not discarding my children like cheap jewelry or robes, but making difficult life choices with my family unit’s best interests at heart.

house moving sucks

our vendors finally completed their searches and ready to go…
but….
their purchasers on hols until mon and not signed anything.

bangs head against brick wall!!

4 in a bed

and so no sleep for adults – BB constantly feeding, SB squiggling and jiggling, we had gone to bed too late anyway.

i want a duvet day – wah!

sperate wah – can’t get BB interested at all in bottles of EBM. Similar prob with SB at the time. getting a bit nervous as return to workin under 3 weeks

and that is the third wah – returning to work!

Debbie’s Interview Answers

Sorry Debbie, took a while for me to finish these, and now I’ve also got
some from Merry as well.

1. If money and time were not limited, where would you most like to go on holiday?

Everywhere ? :-)

It would have to be round the world trip, maybe twice to fit all the places in? By train – we love long trains journeys and also motorhome, and by bike – it could be long trip…… I’d probably actually do it in stages, coming home for bits in between.

Itinerary, ooooh hard one. We’ve done the Trans-siberian, maybe do that again in winter, or the ‘southerly’ – more ‘Asian’ route. Get in trips to places such as Samarkand (I just love the sound of that word), or maybe travel the old Silk Road? End up in Bejing, travel down through China though SE Asis, into India and down through India, hop skip and jump through Indonesia to Oz.

‘Must do’s’ there. The train from Darwin to Adelaide, via Alice Springs, Last time we had to bus it from Darwin to Alice Springs, then the train, and of course the Indian Pacific across the Nullabor plain to Perth. And at least explore some of Western Australia by motorhome/4×4.

Where next? – the Americas. Maybe start right down the bottom, work our way up through South and Central America, by road and Train etc. then say train across the US west to East, up to Canada, back across Canada on the train, crossing the Canadian Rockies, then by RV up the west
coast to Alaska, back down through Canada Cross the US from NW to SE by road.

Would finish off with a south to north Africa trip – obvious stuff like the big game/wild life etc., but also places like Namibia’s Skeleton Coast, and soem of the interesting places such as Greater Zimbabwe, and some of the places Don Cruickshank was visiting recently on TV.

Saunter home via Europe.

2. What would you consider to be a successful education for your
daughters?

Well one of our plans for SB is ‘to do’ a Britney Spears, and make sure that we ‘filter’ off enough of her millions to set us for our retirement (and the above trip…) so whatever facilitates that really :-)

Plan B:

I guess in short, to enable them to achieve their dreams, what ever that might be (assuming that, unlike me, they know what their dreams are of course – that’s the first goal then….) that they grow up to be independent, confident, caring, assertive women, feeling able tackle
whatever situations they find themselves in. To have enquiring minds, enough of an understanding of the culture, history, science etc. of the world around them to make sense of it all. To see life as an adventure. To be able to write symphony or build a house if they so wish.

I do believe that this probably involves qualifications of some sort or another at some point. No I don’t think you should necessarily just do them for the sake of it, but nor to I really go for the idea that some HE’s put forward that you can always do them in life when you want them.
Yes, you can, but it can be much harder work. In the end I think qualifications are to an extent about choices – sure you don’t always need them, and yes there are examples of people succeeding without them. but in general, I think they open more doors to you in life.

3. What would you most like to learn?

To play a musical instrument, or maybe even to sing. Helen comes from a very musical family, is good musician and has perfect pitch, I am tone deaf – a great mix. I love singing to the girls, but I know that I sound crap, I’d really like to be good at it. And as the girls get older they will start playing instruments (we have a piano, and SB already has acute little violin) I’m going to feel very left out.

4. Which experiences in your life (max. 3) have influenced who you are
today?

Hmm, a toughie, I can’t say that there is one moment that hits me as a great ‘changing experience’. Maybe I’ll try and pick one thing from different stages of life.

a. 1964 – When I was almost 2 year old, my Dad had an operation in hospital for a (benign) lump in his neck. Short version of story is that the lump was next to the carotid artery, the surgeon cocked up the op in major way (Carotid artery? oooo, just snip here….), my Dad’s blood supply to his brain on that side was cut off for too long and he end up very close to death. He ended up paralysed on the left hand side (arm and leg) and it also affected his mental capacities as well.

Now I don’t know exactly what influence this had on my life, as it happened so early on in my life. But it meant that we stayed in London a lot longer (my dad had been part of group self building their houses), my dad never really had proper job again (he had a pretty crappy job in Sainsbury’s for bit), but mostly didn’t work, or my parents ran businesses such a guest house and an old people home. It meant that for lot of my life both my parents were around lot of the time. I’d don’t know, I just feel that it will have influenced my life in all sorts of ways

b. 1982 (age 19) When Channel 4 was launched, once of the early programs was ‘The Animals Film’ . Now the film itself is I suspect a bit dire, I can’t remember, and much on their I suspect I knew a fair bit about anyway. But it did inspire some good conversations with the rest of the family, esp. my Aunty Ethel as I remember, which led to me shortly becoming vegetarian, I’ve been so ever since, a fair while also vegan (though not now) and with me being involved in various stuff at University. As is the way of these things, I guess I don’t really do or think much about that sort of thing any more really, but my veggieness has stuck, and has been a thread through my life.

c. July 1988 (age 26) met and fell in love with Helen, the rest as they say, is history – and a happy one at that. I think Helen has influenced my life much more than I hers, she’d I’m sure still be an O&G consultant now even if I’d not appeared on the scene. I’m a bit of an aimless soul really. When I met Helen I was living the scruffy post student life in Brighton. I moved to London and hen to Leeds when she got her job up here, I became teacher, I had two lovely daughters. If I hadn’t met Helen I honestly don’t really know what direction my life would have taken, which bits would have been similar and which different.

And Helen, when you read this, no I don’t mind/regret this one little bit. No need to get all wibbly on me :-)

5. If you had the chance to meet a celebrity for dinner, who would it be and why?

Ohh, now you’ve got me. I’m such a celebrity unconscious person, I’m often pushed to recognise even really famous ones, let alone more minor ones, so first of all I’ve actually got to think of one…..

And most celebrities come across as quite uninteresting people – well I suppose some just are anyway, but understandably – they want to show a public front and hide away to an extent the real them. So can’t say I’m inspired by a lot of them to be bothered to meet them, even though they
may turn out to be quite interesting people. So I’d want someone who either seems to have something in common with me in some way, or who would be entertaining, or who just seems that there would be scope for interesting conversation.

If we are talking ‘A’ list (in her time anyway) then maybe Lauren Bacall, with such long and active life she must be good for a story or two.

For the first criterion, maybe Hugh Fearnley Whitingstall for his interest in self sufficiency , food, cooking etc. and his general laid-backness or Kevin McCloud so we can muse on interesting houses.

Entertaining? – well Steven Fry should be ‘Quite Interesting’ :-), there does seem to be bit of depth to him, but if not he should have some good tales and jokes :-)

On a different tack, and not a celebrity in the typical sense I guess. If he was still alive then I’m sure the scientist Stephen Jay Gould would be fascinating guest, I’m always amazed at how much he draws into his writing, from science, the arts, history, sport. Alternatively, EO Wilson might be an interesting, if different alternative. I always found him an interesting writer, even when I did agree with his ideas necessarily, and he is one of the key evolutionary biologists of the last 50 years. I’d hope for some stimulating conversation.

Thanks Debbie, some interesting questions there, a bit of food for
thought.

If YOU want to be interviewed (is there anyone left?):

1. Leave me a comment saying ‘interview me’.
2. I will respond by asking you five questions (not the same as you
see here).
3. You will update your blog/site with the answers to the questions.
(If you don’t have a blog, let this inspire you to begin one!!)
4. You will include this explanation and an offer to interview someone
else in the same post.
5. When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them five
questions.

Blessings and Bright Sparks

Yesterday was my birthday – thankyou well wishers, i had a lovely day.

SB made me a picture frame with a picture of her, BB and me in it, and also a lovely birthday picture with sparkles and jewels. She had obviously spent a lot of time and thought on it, and its very precious. I also had breakfast in bed – very nice!

We had a read of usbournes lift the flap homes – comparing various styles of ancient homes with modern. Also a bit more of the Usbourne time travellers egyptian section. [history]

We visited the SOTP IRL for Jan’s motherblessing. I had bead and poem, but decided my knitting not up to it! The children all got on v well – and there was a lot of noise! Jax, kirsty and Barbara also there as well as others of Jan’s friends. i thought it was lovely, and belly cast stunning beautiful when all glittered up. Thankyou for a lovely day – also for my birthday cake and lovely coffee!! [socialisation]

Today I’ve not seen so much of SB, and really missed her 1000 questions, though did then get to have a really good day with BB attentionwise, and do some jobs!

Chris took SB for a long walk to Adel crags and some rock climbing. I passed for some BB time and catch up – after all she did wake up at 5-ish and had fed hugely since. Chris might blog that?

On return, after lunch [bb on toast] we were all going outside to do gardening. Sb and I talked about various languages, she recognises french easily – the language tilly speaks, and German – and indeed counted to 12 in german without hitch as she was to have 8 more mouthfuls, but got carried away! on asking her to say hello, she said buongiourno [? spelling] – well we are learning a few words for our italian hol on a german run campsite, so a bit of both. We discussed what words she thought she would like to be able to say, and unprompted came out with hello, goodbye, please, thankyou and I am SB. We also decided to learn can I have an icecream. [languages]. This was sparked off by a gift of a german recipe magazine for children from the SOTP crew – thankyou.

BB was happy under apple tree in pram with toys, weather was gorgeous. Chris was banished to shed tidying duty. SB and I were to decide which plants to divide. However the lure of Molly next door was too great, so she spent most of the afternoon next door with Molly helping her weed – mostly relocating worms though from the sound of it! [ gardening] SB is *really* going to miss Molly, as are we. She and husband Terry make ideal neighbours, friendly, helpful, giving etc.

I divided some hellebores, pulmonaria, cowslips and white dicentra. I think I may relocate these spare plants. Also a paeony and a camellia which look ‘unhappy’. I sat on my bench in the shade garden I made[clearing made by my dad] with BB on lap. BB loved the wind and the tree moving, she giggled and laughed. It was nice giving her undivided attention and playing, like I have sat there and played with SB. I cried. Dad made the clearing for me to sit in shade with SB for her first summer. I think moving to me at the moment feels like losing these moments of family history, that SB babyhood will be saying here in leeds when we move. This might be why I am relocating elements of the garden. However all SBs friends and the friends I inevitably will lose touch with are those that have known us in this precious time of my life, and I am so reluctant to let go and grab the future.

So I was very happy when SB rejoined us and gave a display of twirling and twizzling on the climbing frame. [PE] She really is a bright spark. We then painted her volcano on the grass, discussed lava and magma, and had lots of black ash! [geography, craft]

A bit of jostling as I fed BB [who really didn't sleep a lot today] and we did some games on the cbeebies [IT]. Dinner was what chris would call crap food! lattices [shop bought], jacket potatoes and mixed veg. We also had white wine as only enough fizzy water for SB – what an excuse! SB and BB enjoyed their bath together, and SB was delighted at wheeler dealering 3 stories out of me – she thinks she has been so clever, truth is I love reading them, as we lie in bed together snuggled together on our tummies – bliss! She fell asleep while I sang from joseph and his technicolour dreamcoat. Heaven!

Unfortunately our cafetiere just deconstructed with coffee in it, so beautiful coffee smell, but contents strewn over worksurface and floor – sigh!

thoughts for the day: moving is crap, friends are important, children are what its all about. Sun is fantastic, coffee is essential!

I’m 36

Happy birthday to me - and so much for really early night. Must express first!! [TMI??]