This morning, girl’s are happily watching TV, until BB threw a basket (smallish, wickerwork thing that came with flowers in) at SB – hitting her right next to her right eye. These things come totally out of the blue.
Yesterday, while eating dinner she threw a Fimo face that SB had made across the table, breaking bits off it – again, she just did it for no obvious reason.
This morning she got banished from the kitchen for a bit for again being horrible (forget exactly what now).
Sometimes she can be really horrible 
hugs.
And mostly she is absolutely adorable.
yep she is mostly absolutely adorable, and we love her enormously. but she did say that throwing things at SB was her ‘most favouritist thing’. so in between adoring her squdgy tummy as i pretend to eat it and blow raspberries over it, giggling at her gorgeousness and being twisted around her little finger, I do totally despair of her unpredictable wildness and joy in causing mayhem and hurt to SB.
Poor SB. I hope BB finds some other even more favouriter things to do soon.
She’s a threenager. Doesn’t bode well for you all in ten years’ time!
Is it that she likes to get the reaction?
i think it is michelle, but it just comes out of the blue often, when she has seemed happy, so its not as simple as i keep being ignored. it is one of the erasons i commented on your blog though!
I wondered if the reaction from SB was fun for SB.
Jol has been working with Ams to try and calm her reactions down as the boys at art taunt her by discussing gory films and so on and Ams will over-react so that encourages them to keep going. Clo says when Ams isn’t there, the conversation is normal. It’s a bit of bullying really and not nice but it’s difficult to correct from the boys’ side so Ams needs to work on not reacting to provocation. If they don’t get a reaction they will maybe get bored? Ams likes art so she doesn’t want to stop coming.
We also half think Ams likes giving the reactions too . . .
reaction from SB was fun for BB!
pah!
yes, that too. we have been working on sb’s reactions for ages. but bb escalates…
… and i don’t want sb to get the thinking she deserves it [a la provocative dressing womens payback from judges]
but TBH, i mostly think its because I am failing to give either of them enough parental interaction of the fun nature at the moment – and looking at the blog, it seems for ever since i was a good parent
I don’t think that’s fair on you at all. We have outbreaks of random nastiness sometimes too and I think that people have to take responsibility for their own choices sometimes – even when they’re three! We can’t (as parents) make everything ok all the time. It is very hard when one child seems intent on hurting the other’s feelings or body. But I think it’s very common for people to work through things with siblings that they wouldn’t with anyone else and that this too will pass. It is horrid though and I tend to get very full of self-doubt at such moments too. Strikes me you are a very loving mum – and that’s what counts most, I reckon.
thanks Allie. i hope it is a this too will pass. because BB is utterly gorgeous otherwise1! and SB is a sweetheart who doesn’t deserve to be bullied by her sister [though i think she is not 100% perfect in this!]
You are always a good parent Helen! You spend loads of time with them baking and reading and playing games. And spending time on holiday with them. You don’t stick them in a kids club when you go on holiday as many, many parents do.
TBH it sounds like a typical three thing! J didn’t do it, but pretty much every other three yo I know has done, for varying amounts of time, including both K and L. In fact a surprising number of them seemed to start on the day they turned three or a day either side – we used to joke that they knew! I’ve never understood why people talk about terrible twos when ime three is so much worse!
You will weather it though, and she’ll be full-time lovely again, or as near as whatsit
Fwiw, Helen, I don’t see how you could possibly spend any more time doing things with the girsl! You already do far more than I do and I don’t have a high-pressure job to hold down as well!
thanks you guys.