the recipe for Helen – as seen on jax’ blog

The Recipe For Helen
3 parts Prosperity
2 parts Creativity
1 part Dignity

Splash of Friendship

Finish off with whipped cream

musical monday 3 = marriage of figaro

this has always been a great favourite opera of mine, not sure which aria i prefer, i love the lot. i have played the overture a lot too, and hearing it start always makes me smile. i have done another amazon listen to samples [chosen for being in english rather than for the recording], as looking for a utube! here , here, here and here. Actually i was glad to find renee fleming and the dove sono, as its one of my favourite performances. obviously high opera isn’t for everyone though..

hmm ominous

i think chris should do the driving! tonight, after a ‘bad’ work day, i had to drive up the curb onto a grassy bank to avoid a head on collision, that car raced away. however, chris says it must have jiggled something on the alternator or something.

anyway, when i was coming home , i thought my lights weren’t right. i pulled over in a carpark and they seemed on – i am a bit paranoid about light, so thought me being silly. however, when i drove on, to a desolate country lane, i thought i was right, but on all the lights, saw weird things happen to the dash. just as i entered the village i decided lights were getting too dim, so looked for somewhere to pull over, at that point everything dramatically dies.

chris not too far away, so ring him and he pushes us home. meanwhile SB, who hasn’t been asleep realises she is home alone…

AAAAAAAAARRRRRRRGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

SB is back

and all is right with the world. you know, i love SB and have missed her dreadfully. BB of course has returned to sibling BB mode.

SB had a great time at my mum and dads, they went to whipsnade, cousin M stayed over too as his half term. they went to see danny champion ofthe world – which she loved. one happy girl.

oh, and we are enjoying watching damages here . i have linked but not read – don’t want to lose that tension

BB and me

is a totally different kettle of fish without any siblings. she was adorable, amenable and we had a lot of fun.

we made pastry and jam tarts. air drying clay, plasticine, duplo, cuddled, read books, wathced tv.

yummy day. oh, and i made nice feta cheese, leek and artichoke flans.

musical monday 2 = mnemosyne and officium

i thought i might try for a series of posts when i remembered putting audio links to music i love.

this – the hilliard ensemble and mnemosyne by jan Garbarek i heard a couple of times and was transfixed, and had to do quite a bit of searching before i found out what it was and could buy it. it is not perhaps the most accessible of classical music [unlike the vaughn williams].

It has also been fairly impossible to find much of a link, but here is one , albeit short. try the mnemosyne ones or the officium ones for the hilliard ensemble. haunting. Also samples on amazon. I don’t think all the tracks work, but the idea… and when it does work for me, it WORKS!

external validation and educational ponderings.

external validation of home ed is always a difficult idea for me. i am uncertain under which conditions it would actually have any validity, which is why we don’t seek it! i think that the only current people who have a valid opinion on how well we are doing to provide an education suitable for age, ability and aptitude are me and chris. what about SB? well, she obviously has a v great say in the educational process, what she wants to do, as we are child led [a bit autonomous with some formal maths!] I think – defining our hE practice with regards to other peoples is a slippery fish! its easy to say you school at home, sonlight etc, and its easy to be completely autonomous, but we aren’t either. much more on the autonomous side, with lots of educational strewing going on! Anyway, if she likes something,w e do it [even timetabling, which has now stopped!] if she doesn’t like something, we don’t. So, if we assume that we educate in a way that suits SB and she enjoys, it will usually meet the 3 a’s for her. But is it any good?

well, for that we need some goals perhaps to see if we are on a path to achieve? hmm, goal setting then seems much more cagey.

  1. i would like her to be in a place to choose what and how and when for exams and further ed, and that I shouldn’t have limited her options. but of course i will have done. school limited mine – what did or didn’t clash etc. so i hope that i can keep a broad base of options until it is clear where she wishes to direct her path. I think that is my present goal. [can't answer for chris]. both of us went to uni, and although i ‘m not saying now she has to go, i want that option to be most definitely there. and its this that muddies my autonomous approach! [maths - and handwriting, though SB has specifically requested that = autonomous perhaps!] . so they are my deepest darkest goals!
  2. my more apparent ones are that i want her to see learning and acquiring knowledge fun and interesting, to not lose the thirst and spark about it. At the moment she wants to rampage through the magic school bus books [so i had better buy some then!] and this is what i love, seeing her head in a book, and then proudly telling me facts, and making me guess -testing me! and this goal at present complements the other. what i’ll do if they ever don’t run in tandem waits to be seen!
  3. and i want her to enjoy her childhood, that this education and learning stuff isn’t pressurised. that she plays and grows up at her own pace rather than in response to peer pressure

so, i guess by my goal setting we are OK too. but i always think we could do it ‘a bit better’ , that a bit more organisation on our part, of the day, of the resources, of tidyness would waste less precious time and present more options.

Of course, if i did have to submit to external validation, i could talk and present stuff and gloss and spin, and i imagine they would walk away perfectly satisfied even if i’m not. [they might surprise me! we have no written proof of anything except maths] it would be totally irrelevant to me/us though as a validation [or not] of our methods. It could never be more than a tick box exercise. i would ignore criticisms as well as commendations.

BTW, this is not a criticism of those that do have meetings, provide evidence etc. but in a round about way, a criticism of those bodies that think they can measure home ed at all. the only people that can with a true heart say whether the education provided is suitable are those intimately involved. and it is us, the parents responsibility that no complacency or external tick box allows us to not follow up on our niggles and try and iron them out, to be true facilitators of the learning process, however it suits our own family.

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sob, have left SB behind

or so said BB, and she is right, we have.

we went to my parents today to have a nice day and drop SB off until thurs – which seems v odd! much game playing [including bingo], drawing and lots of chatting. I am sure they will have a great time, but i already miss her!!

interesting q on way down, is a hot air balloon easier to get aloft, more difficult or the same when it is freezing cold compared to a nice sunny day. i thought it should be no different [except the practicalities of cold fingers! as its the temp differential that mattered. SB thought it would be harder as lots of the heat would quickly be lost to the cold air [i was impressed she remembered all about this tBH] , chris thinks a bit harder, but doubts much in it. this was car ed so no googling, what do you think? or do you know?? [sparked by seeing a rather lovely hot air balloon]

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do you think we could vote too?

I would!!